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ADV-NEWS, Leno joked about his role as a witness. "I was called by the defense," he said. "Apparently they've never seen this program."

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May 24, 2005         11:28 PM EDT Leno Goes Back to Jackson Jokes on TV Show By CHRIS T. NGUYEN Associated Press Writer BURBANK, Calif. (AP) — Hours after testifying as a defense witness in Michael Jackson’s molestation trial, Jay Leno was again mocking the pop star on the "Tonight Show." "OK, you know the worst part about testifying, I had to follow the chimp. The witness chair was a mess," Leno told the audience during taping of his monologue. "No, actually, there was one kinda embarrassing moment. When I took the stand they asked me to point out the defendant and I pointed out LaToya," he said, referring to one of Jackson’s sisters. Leno had started his day up the coast in Santa Maria, where Jackson is on trial on charges of molesting a boy, giving him alcohol and conspiring to hold the boy’s family captive. Leno testified that he became suspicious of effusive and seemingly scripted phone messages he received from Jackson’s future accuser in 2000. His testimony took less than an hour and in the afternoon he was back on stage at NBC’s studios in Burbank. Leno showed the audience mock footage of his day in court, including a scene in which young male witnesses were sipping on drinks in martini glasses. Another scene showed Leno high-fiving jurors as he walked into the courtroom while the judge screamed "Order!" He joked about rumors of Jackson wanting to leave the country, perhaps for Africa, if acquitted. "He wants to disappear in Africa. Africa. He has a better chance of disappearing in Sweden," Leno said. "Well, after, what, 12 weeks of trial, Michael Jackson’s attorneys – they have finally admitted that Michael slept with children but it was about love, not sex. It just goes to prove that line works for all guys," Leno said. Jackson, who has pleaded not guilty to the charges, said in a TV documentary that he let children sleep in his bed but that it was innocent and non-sexual. On Monday’s "Tonight Show," Leno joked about his role as a witness. "I was called by the defense," he said. "Apparently they’ve never seen this program."

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Jun 4, 2005     7:08 PM EDT Magazine: Kelly Osbourne in Drug Rehab LOS ANGELES (AP) — Kelly Osbourne, the 20-year-old daughter of heavy metal star Ozzy Osbourne, has checked herself into a drug treatment center, according to a published report. Osbourne entered the Pasadena facility on Thursday, Us Weekly reported Friday. A message left for her mother, Sharon Osbourne, was not immediately returned. A family representative told the magazine that Kelly Osbourne was "dealing with some personal issues" and would be back in a few weeks. Kelly Osbourne spent several weeks last year at a Malibu drug treatment center for an addiction to prescription pain killers. Her brother, Jack Osbourne, checked himself into a drug and alcohol rehabilitation clinic in 2003 and Ozzy Osbourne has been candid about his decades of battles with substance abuse. The siblings became international stars following the success of the MTV reality show "The Osbournes," which showed an oft-dazed Ozzy doting over his family with Sharon.

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Wake-up call Study shows California’s urgent need for leaders who solve problems Saturday, June 04, 2005 – The state budget is a mess. Traffic is a nightmare. There aren’t enough good jobs or affordable homes. The schools are overcrowded, most are failing. The health care system is on the verge of collapse. And yet in 20 years, these may be remembered as the good ol’ days. So say researchers at the Public Policy Institute of California, who have amassed mountains of data to suggest that as bad as the current state of affairs in California is, things are going to get a lot worse, approaching crisis levels by 2025, unless dramatic steps are taken soon. Fed in no small part by illegal immigration, California’s population is booming, although our infrastructure remains stagnant. State leaders long ago gave up on building new freeways or even schools fast enough to keep up with population growth. Within 20 years that lack of planning will be felt all the more acutely. For instance, the already unbearable commute times will increase by 48 percent. But even as the population grows by a third to 48 million, it also will age — a shift that alone could overwhelm the fragile health care system. Is there a silver lining? Of course. The Public Policy Institute has issued its wake-up call in the belief that an informed and energized electorate will demand officials stop bickering and get to work solving the state’s problems. The key is leadership. California suffers under a political system that cares more about partisan rancor and serving special interests than in serving the public. We have legions of the best-paid public employees in the nation, yet some of the worst services. For the last three decades, legislators neglected investing in infrastructure as if there were no consequences. With that myth now thoroughly and utterly debunked, it’s time for state leaders to get serious about planning for California’s future. Sacramento has the major responsibility but so do county and city governments across Southern California. They need to join forces to address common needs. Crisis is not our destiny, although it is where we’re headed. PPI has issued an important wake-up call. All Californians — and especially our elected leaders — had best take heed.

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rich people will bring disaster.

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rich people will bring disaster upon other earthlings. they violated the contract with god.

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Hollywood Slut Lindsay Lohan's Dysfunctional Family Life

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 21:31:12 -0800, Hardpan <hard…@yahoo.com

wrote: On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 23:10:26 -0500, Skinn…@hotmail.com wrote: On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 17:49:38 -0800, Hardpan <hard…@yahoo.com wrote: On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 06:57:07 -0500, Skinn…@hotmail.com wrote: On 27 Feb 2005 23:11:45 -0800, peter_rogers2…@hotmail.com wrote: Why do you hate her so much? Fair enough if you’ve met her before but you seem to have a lot of superficial hate for someone you don’t even know. She could be a really nice person. One of the most prevalent human behaviors is to single out somebody that seemingly has it better than you and then tear that person down to make yourself feel superior. Yes, its a common practice amongst women. Have you even READ any of the posts here…. It’s not just women pal… It’s men as well! I know from first hand experience how girls/women will try to tear a Man down to make themselves feel good. Granted. A great deal of what the Femanist movement was all about was bolstering women’s self image by destroying a lot of the men’s self image. I truely think this is where the "Demonize the Enemy" thinking started. Its also no coincidence that I also mirror what women do in real life. I find it enjoyable to speak my mind about such women and I make no apologies for doing so to anyone. Speaking your mind is fine. Purposly hurting someone with your words is an entirely different matter. I agree. Its entirely unfortunate that someone at the middle-school I attended, where I was subjected to this sort of behavior almost everyday, didn’t tell that to the girls that were in the habit of ridiculing, teasing and taunting me, long before I ever had a chance to develop the early formative relationships with them, like most normal males do, given the chance. That chance was lost forever because the adults back then choose to look the other way and even try to blame me for the uncontrolled actions of these sluts, instead of putting a stop to it. I hope that you will forgive me if I could care less what my words do to the adult women or Men here at this point in my life, in the little time I have left alive on this screwed-up planet that we all live on. It is enough that I will live out my life peacefully and without any physical violence towards women, but I will indeed speak my mind about the evils and harm that feminism promotes and the victims it produces, until the day that I can speak no longer.

I understand the pain and anger you feel. I have felt that myself. I have directed it towards singled ouot segments of society like ALL women or ALL tall, good looking men…… but that doesn’t make it right or true. Sure as hell about the time I would get to really hating one group or another I would meet someone smack in the middle of that group that would proive my prejudices wrong. Not wrong to the point that I found the love of my life or the respect of a peer… but wrong enough to realizer that I just couldn’t go around lumpingpeople into groups. Still, I tend to do that anyway until I stop and realize what I am doing and try real hard to stop doing it. Hate is a powerful emotion. Perhapos the most powerful of all of them. It has shaped the world and created some of the most mind numbing atrocities we have. It has seperated peoples that should haev been together and it has made enemies of those who should be friends. And, it has ruined many MANY lives. I would advise against letting it dictate your actions and words. It is a power that nearly no human can control for long.

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Her tits do look a bit bodged up but I still wouldn’t push her out of bed for it. lol About me being protective of her. It’s not really being protective. More non judgemental of her. I never try to judge anyone too much unless I know them personally. One thing I have learnt in life is that you shouldn’t judge anything, including people, on face value.

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On 28 Feb 2005 05:03:24 -0800, peter_rogers2…@hotmail.com wrote:

Seems pretty sad to have a go at her for having, from the sounds of it, an abusive drunk as a father who’s a bit of a headcase. I feel sorry for her, even if she does earn far more than I ever will. Chances are she’d have swapped all that money to have had a happier family life.

Part of me feels sorry for her…. but another part does not. She will have a lot that I will never have. But she will also quite possible miss a lot too. Wealth doesn;t always mean happiness.

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On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 17:49:38 -0800, Hardpan <hard…@yahoo.com

wrote: On Mon, 28 Feb 2005 06:57:07 -0500, Skinn…@hotmail.com wrote: On 27 Feb 2005 23:11:45 -0800, peter_rogers2…@hotmail.com wrote: Why do you hate her so much? Fair enough if you’ve met her before but you seem to have a lot of superficial hate for someone you don’t even know. She could be a really nice person. One of the most prevalent human behaviors is to single out somebody that seemingly has it better than you and then tear that person down to make yourself feel superior. Yes, its a common practice amongst women.

Have you even READ any of the posts here…. It’s not just women pal… It’s men as well!

I know from first hand experience how girls/women will try to tear a Man down to make themselves feel good.

Granted. A great deal of what the Femanist movement was all about was bolstering women’s self image by destroying a lot of the men’s self image. I truely think this is where the "Demonize the Enemy" thinking started.

Its also no coincidence that I also mirror what women do in real life. I find it enjoyable to speak my mind about such women and I make no apologies for doing so to anyone.

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You see it done on a personal basis here all the time. And I ghuess it can extend to someone that cannot fight back or someone in the news. Truthfully I had never heard of her before yesterday. Had to Google her to see if I recognized her from anything. I did not. Then you didn’t miss anything. Lohan is a second rate actress with some really bizarre looks, in addition to a really poor boob-job.

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Seems pretty sad to have a go at her for having, from the sounds of it, an abusive drunk as a father who’s a bit of a headcase. I feel sorry for her, even if she does earn far more than I ever will. Chances are she’d have swapped all that money to have had a happier family life.

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peter_rogers2…@hotmail.com wrote:

Seems pretty sad to have a go at her for having, from the sounds of it, an abusive drunk as a father who’s a bit of a headcase. I feel sorry for her, even if she does earn far more than I ever will. Chances are she’d have swapped all that money to have had a happier family life.

whats strange about all this, how many other families like that, that are out there but you never hear of them unless the person is rich or in this case, an actress. ghost

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Hardpan wrote:

http://www.newsday.com Plenty of drama in Lohan

Wicky Wudd

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Daniel Abuser: Hey shorteyes.  Rot in hell. no kidding. Here is your chance to tell you side of your confession and redeem yourself – why are you hiding from it? Why were you arrested twice for spousal and/or child abuse,  Daniel? Who called the police?   What made the police decide to go ahead with an arrest once they were on the scene?   Be honest,  loser.    Oh,  and the reckless driving convictions – was alcohol involved?  If so,  have you completed an alcohol rehabilitation program? what about it? i have been arrested 4 times, twice for warrants from a reckless driving conviction, and twice for unsubstantiated claims of domestic violence. wow. one reckless driving charge, and 2 domestic violence arrests

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Daniel Abuser:

Hey shorteyes.  Rot in hell. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – no kidding. Here is your chance to tell you side of your confession and redeem yourself – why are you hiding from it? Why were you arrested twice for spousal and/or child abuse,  Daniel?   Who called the police?   What made the police decide to go ahead with an arrest once they were on the scene?   Be honest,  loser.    Oh,  and the reckless driving convictions – was alcohol involved?  If so,  have you completed an alcohol rehabilitation program? what about it? i have been arrested 4 times, twice for warrants from a reckless driving conviction, and twice for unsubstantiated claims of domestic violence. wow. one reckless driving charge, and 2 domestic violence arrests

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no kidding.

Here is your chance to tell you side of your confession and redeem yourself – why are you hiding from it? Why were you arrested twice for spousal and/or child abuse,  Daniel?   Who called the police?   What made the police decide to go ahead with an arrest once they were on the scene?   Be honest,  loser.    Oh,  and the reckless driving convictions – was alcohol involved?  If so,  have you completed an alcohol rehabilitation program? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – what about it? i have been arrested 4 times, twice for warrants from a reckless driving conviction, and twice for unsubstantiated claims of domestic violence. wow. one reckless driving charge, and 2 domestic violence arrests

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Mother Regrets Adoption; Blames CPS

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Melinda Walmsley wrote:

Neal, I don’t know your story at all.  It’s just so rare to find someone in this place that realizes that "CPS" or SRS have a lot of corruption problems and that court appointed attornys in those types of cases, don’t represent their clients.   So after reading your responce, and agreeing with you, it just kind of made me wonder what is your story and your interest in all this.

My story is available in detail at: http://home.attbi.com/~silverstorm/mystory.htm Also I have done a large article on Gestapo CPS with related links which is at: http://home.attbi.com/~silverstorm/cps.htm What is my interest in all this?  Simple.  The protection of the civil, human, constitutional, due process and parental rights of the citizenry, and to see the eradication of agencies (in this case Gestapo CPS) which violate those inalienable rights.

I have connections to a group that is fighting SRS fraud in foster care and adoption.  They’ve managed to connect the former head of SRS with the person who gets to decide if the court appointed attorneys who don’t represent their clients against SRS should be disbarred for their conduct.  (the connection is they are married).  Interesting huh?

Quite interesting indeed. It is a well known fact pointed out in my website and in some others linked from it that attorneys, counsellors, etc who refuse to ‘play ball’ Gestapo CPS’ way find themselves kicked out of the game in one way or another.

But anyway, she is the "former" head of SRS now becasue of the corruption and exposure of the corruption.  she wasn’t fired though. She resigned to go run Kathlene Sebelius’s campaign for Governor.

Of course… "You can’t fire me!  I QUIT!" ROTFLU! A pity that the people generally do not have the ability to in such cases rescind the pensions of such folks who ran out of their offices mere moments before they would be tarred and feathered. There are attempts to give The People that power in Oregon through our initiative system.

I was just curious what your part in all this is.

The above should help you a bit. And welcome to the group, BTW. — ============================================================= Home Page: http://home.attbi.com/~silverstorm/ We will never rest until Gestapo CPS is completely abolished!

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Neal, I don’t know your story at all.  It’s just so rare to find someone in this place that realizes that "CPS" or SRS have a lot of corruption problems and that court appointed attornys in those types of cases, don’t represent their clients.   So after reading your responce, and agreeing with you, it just kind of made me wonder what is your story and your interest in all this. I have connections to a group that is fighting SRS fraud in foster care and adoption.  They’ve managed to connect the former head of SRS with the person who gets to decide if the court appointed attorneys who don’t represent their clients against SRS should be disbarred for their conduct.  (the connection is they are married).  Interesting huh?  But anyway, she is the "former" head of SRS now becasue of the corruption and exposure of the corruption.  she wasn’t fired though. She resigned to go run Kathlene Sebelius’s campaign for Governor. I was just curious what your part in all this is.

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From the San Luis Valley (CO) Courier Jan 4 2002  By TERESA L. BENNS ALAMOSA – A three-year odyssey to satisfy requirements laid down by social services here ended for a "mildly retarded" woman recently, who chose to place her children for open adoption just to secure rights to see them. "My lawyer said (the department) would terminate my rights if I didn’t do it," Christie Bailey said during recent a telephone interview. Bailey, a Certified Nurse’s Assistant was first visited by child protective services in 1999, after an anonymous tipster told social services her home was cluttered, the children were eating off the floor and coffee table, and the baby stayed in a playpen all day.

Wow… cluttered, huh? What a CRIME!  Kids eating off tabletops and sometimes the floor! WOW!  Best not tell them about the picnics where they are off the dirty ground!  Kids being in a playpen!  Atrocious!

Bailey, a welfare recipient, then received a disability check for $5,000. Social services demanded that Bailey show where the money was spent. When Bailey refused, her children were placed in foster care in August or September, 1999.

What business was it of theirs how she spent HER money? But their kidnapping in response to her refusal to allow them to trample her rights is just typical of how these fascist kidnappers operate.

The children were returned in July, 2000, following Bailey’s completion of parenting and anger management classes, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation program and other training required by social services before Bailey could regain custody.

Let’s see… what of those charges justified drug and alcohol rehabilitation, anger management or other training, or even, for that matter, ‘parenting training’? Nothing apparently.  But Gestapo CPS kidnapped the kids to force the parent to justify the existance of the cottage industry BS of Gestapo CPS by her filling a seat.

But acting on a complaint from a citizen made to social services that Bailey had twisted her daughter’s arm in an Alamosa store and other reports, the department once again took all three children from the home.

Oh yes… the infamous ‘twisted arm and other (undisclosed) reports’. Real credible justification for removal… NOT!

While Bailey was first able to see her children twice weekly, she says some of the visits were pre-empted for the children’s sessions with a counselor in Canon City. "I’ve hardly been able to see the two younger kids because of their counseling appointments," she said. "Now I see them only once a month."

One would think that court ordered visitation would be set up to work in concert with such counselling sessions, as if the sessions themselves were actually constitutional in any way. (they aren’t)

Court appearance When Bailey appeared in court Dec. 5 in Alamosa to face charges of emotional abuse and neglect, the department was ready. A long list of witnesses, including school officials, day care workers, and the foster parents told the judge Bailey’s children came to school soiled with urine and feces, her baby was slow developing, and a Dr. Jackson testified Bailey was "a little bit slow – couldn’t handle her kids." "My lawyer only called one witness, and that was Dr. Jackson," Bailey said. "I had several witnesses there."

Demonstration of a typical situation… atty for the parents selling out their client for future career potential for the atty.

Bailey asked Judge O. John Kuenhold to speak to the children privately to ask them their wishes concerning placement but the judge declined the request. "My oldest boy said one of the caseworkers took him out for a Chinese dinner and asked him how he would like living without his mom forever," Bailey said. "Right in front of the foster mother, the kids said they wanted to live with me."

But does anyone think Gestapo CPS cares what kids have to say? Oh, if they say anything against the parents it is gospel and must be believed, even if contorted, distorted or coerced from the kids…but if the kid defends the parents or challenges the allegations against the parents well, that is another story entirely! This clear dichotomy and inconsistency has not gone unnoticed.

Bailey’s objections that her children were not being treated according to child protective services’ guidelines in the foster home fell on deaf ears, she said.

Typical… they never listen to legitimate issues regarding the system. Such would only undermine their kidnapping business.

An earlier statement made to Bailey by a caseworker – that the children’s current foster parents were "too old" by department standards to adopt the children themselves – was overlooked by the court, Bailey contends, to clear the way for the couple to serve as her children’s adoptive parents.

Standard meatmarket shoppers.

She says the potential adoptive father has recently suffered health problems and will be 70 by the time her youngest son, age three, turns 18. Bailey’s current partner fathered her three-year-old son. The father has not signed off rights to the child.

Does that matter to Gestapo CPS kidnappers?  Not likely.

"One time they told me I could marry my boyfriend and he could help me with the kids," Bailey said. "But later they said it wouldn’t help."

And why wouldn’t it help? Have they specific proof of the unfitness of the father?

Bailey had the option of facing termination of her rights with the right to appeal any termination ruling or choose open adoption. On the advice of her attorney, and after responding yes to the judge’s question ascertaining she understood the consequences of the decision, open adoption was agreed to.

Lovely coerced agreement made under duress and therefore not worth the paper it is printed on.

Bailey’s attorney speaks "In my opinion, the result of Christy Bailey’s case is in her best interests as well as her children’s, because she can continue to be involved in her children’s life," Bailey’s court-appointed attorney, Raymond Miller, said last week.

Yeah, right… Apparently only you, Gestapo CPS and their apologists seem to think so.

Had Bailey appealed termination proceedings and lost, Miller noted, "she would have no rights to see her children ever again."

And likely with a corrupt and incompetent lawyer who should be permanently disbarred such as yourself representing her that would have happened, right?

When asked if he felt the department of social services had overlooked anything, Miller commented that the caseworker might have been "too involved" and Bailey’s mild retardation was not factored into the equation, but "the department felt they were doing the right thing.

Whether they are deluded into thinking they are doing the right thing it was YOUR DUTY AS HER ATTORNEY to actively  and diligently bring these issues up, Mr Miller.. you did not do so… your representation was inept and substandard.

Ninety-nine percent of the time they do the right thing,

And you are ignorant too, since it is clearly a false statement you make here.  In fact it is just about the reverse… nearly 99% of the time the do the WRONG thing.

and if a mistake is made, I like to think the lawyers and judges can correct it.

Like you did, Mr Miller? ROTFLU!

Alamosa is one of the better counties in the Valley."

Compared to what, Mr Miller?  Auchwitz?

Miller pointed out that Bailey’s mild mental retardation first came to light with the testimony of Dr. Jackson.

This was YOUR witness and you knew nothing of what they were going to say, Mr Miller?  Are you always this professionally incompetent, Mr Miller?

"The removal of Christy Bailey’s children had no bearing on her retardation," Miller said. "That was an issue I developed. The Supreme Court has ruled that the state cannot remove children even in cases of gross retardation unless there is a danger to the child."

They are not supposed to remove kids AT ALL unless there is a danger to the child.  None was shown here.

Bailey to appeal "I’m going to appeal this," Bailey said. "(Another) attorney told me to put in a motion for a new hearing."

I’ll bet they did. They are clearly not as incompetent as you are. Maybe your client should have that OTHER atty representing them and sue you for incompetent representation, Mr Miller.

Miller believes Bailey will not be able to obtain a new hearing. "She could try to withdraw her consent, but I’m not sure the statutes provide for that," he said.

Sure they do. Any agreement arrived at through fraud and/or duress is unenforceable.

‘Her appeal won’t be successful because the judge clearly asked her if she knew what was going on."

So what? But the attitude of this corrupt clown is duly noted. She will never be successful, Gestapo CPS ‘does the right thing’ 99% of the time, etc etc etc. Duly noted indeed.

Bailey said no papers were signed at the Dec. 5 hearing and no time limit was set for completion of the adoption.

If no papers were signed then no adoption happens.  Period.

http://www.zwire.com/news/newsstory.cfm?newsid=2896847&title=Mother%20re grets%20open%20adoption%2C%20blames%20child%20protective%20services&BRD= 1190&PAG=461&CATNAME=Top%20Stories&CATEGORYID=410 — http://www.DontTakeOurKids.com — http://www.hereinreality.com

— ============================================================= Home Page: http://home.attbi.com/~silverstorm/ We will never rest until Gestapo CPS is completely abolished!

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From the San Luis Valley (CO) Courier Jan 4 2002  By TERESA L. BENNS ALAMOSA – A three-year odyssey to satisfy requirements laid down by social services here ended for a "mildly retarded" woman recently, who chose to place her children for open adoption just to secure rights to see them. "My lawyer said (the department) would terminate my rights if I didn’t do it," Christie Bailey said during recent a telephone interview. Bailey, a Certified Nurse’s Assistant was first visited by child protective services in 1999, after an anonymous tipster told social services her home was cluttered, the children were eating off the floor and coffee table, and the baby stayed in a playpen all day. Bailey, a welfare recipient, then received a disability check for $5,000. Social services demanded that Bailey show where the money was spent. When Bailey refused, her children were placed in foster care in August or September, 1999. The children were returned in July, 2000, following Bailey’s completion of parenting and anger management classes, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation program and other training required by social services before Bailey could regain custody. But acting on a complaint from a citizen made to social services that Bailey had twisted her daughter’s arm in an Alamosa store and other reports, the department once again took all three children from the home. While Bailey was first able to see her children twice weekly, she says some of the visits were pre-empted for the children’s sessions with a counselor in Canon City. "I’ve hardly been able to see the two younger kids because of their counseling appointments," she said. "Now I see them only once a month." Court appearance When Bailey appeared in court Dec. 5 in Alamosa to face charges of emotional abuse and neglect, the department was ready. A long list of witnesses, including school officials, day care workers, and the foster parents told the judge Bailey’s children came to school soiled with urine and feces, her baby was slow developing, and a Dr. Jackson testified Bailey was "a little bit slow – couldn’t handle her kids." "My lawyer only called one witness, and that was Dr. Jackson," Bailey said. "I had several witnesses there." Bailey asked Judge O. John Kuenhold to speak to the children privately to ask them their wishes concerning placement but the judge declined the request. "My oldest boy said one of the caseworkers took him out for a Chinese dinner and asked him how he would like living without his mom forever," Bailey said. "Right in front of the foster mother, the kids said they wanted to live with me." Bailey’s objections that her children were not being treated according to child protective services’ guidelines in the foster home fell on deaf ears, she said. An earlier statement made to Bailey by a caseworker – that the children’s current foster parents were "too old" by department standards to adopt the children themselves – was overlooked by the court, Bailey contends, to clear the way for the couple to serve as her children’s adoptive parents. She says the potential adoptive father has recently suffered health problems and will be 70 by the time her youngest son, age three, turns 18. Bailey’s current partner fathered her three-year-old son. The father has not signed off rights to the child. "One time they told me I could marry my boyfriend and he could help me with the kids," Bailey said. "But later they said it wouldn’t help." Bailey had the option of facing termination of her rights with the right to appeal any termination ruling or choose open adoption. On the advice of her attorney, and after responding yes to the judge’s question ascertaining she understood the consequences of the decision, open adoption was agreed to. Bailey’s attorney speaks "In my opinion, the result of Christy Bailey’s case is in her best interests as well as her children’s, because she can continue to be involved in her children’s life," Bailey’s court-appointed attorney, Raymond Miller, said last week. Had Bailey appealed termination proceedings and lost, Miller noted, "she would have no rights to see her children ever again." When asked if he felt the department of social services had overlooked anything, Miller commented that the caseworker might have been "too involved" and Bailey’s mild retardation was not factored into the equation, but "the department felt they were doing the right thing. Ninety-nine percent of the time they do the right thing, and if a mistake is made, I like to think the lawyers and judges can correct it. Alamosa is one of the better counties in the Valley." Miller pointed out that Bailey’s mild mental retardation first came to light with the testimony of Dr. Jackson. "The removal of Christy Bailey’s children had no bearing on her retardation," Miller said. "That was an issue I developed. The Supreme Court has ruled that the state cannot remove children even in cases of gross retardation unless there is a danger to the child." Bailey to appeal "I’m going to appeal this," Bailey said. "(Another) attorney told me to put in a motion for a new hearing." Miller believes Bailey will not be able to obtain a new hearing. "She could try to withdraw her consent, but I’m not sure the statutes provide for that," he said. "Her appeal won’t be successful because the judge clearly asked her if she knew what was going on." Bailey said no papers were signed at the Dec. 5 hearing and no time limit was set for completion of the adoption. http://www.zwire.com/news/newsstory.cfm?newsid=2896847&title=Mother%20re grets%20open%20adoption%2C%20blames%20child%20protective%20services&BRD= 1190&PAG=461&CATNAME=Top%20Stories&CATEGORYID=410 — http://www.DontTakeOurKids.com — http://www.hereinreality.com

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A bomb in his shoes?

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I hope they were less than kind when they "subdued" him…would send an interesting message to potential terrorists if he was shown being taken off the plane bloody and injured. By the time this is all over, we won’t need sky marshals. Terrorists will need to be afraid of the passengers! The answer to this crap, at least for dometic flights, is simply to make Concealed Carry Permits issued by any state valid nation wide and especially in airports and on aircraft. Hoplophobes will scream, but I am yet to hear rational arguments that it wouldn’t work at least as well as sky marshals. Don — Wm. Donald (Don) Tabor Jr., DDS PP-ASEL Chesapeake, VA – CPK, PVG Only rational argument?? This is a case where the outcome was resolved favorably WITHOUT guns, if you will only pause to read it.  It hardly supports your contention that guns should be alloswd, which might very well have resulted insome innocent person being killed or maimed  in this very case. Yes, this is *one* case. I can think of four more on 9/11 that would most definately have had a different outcome had the *good guys* had guns. Your use of *might* brings to mind "maybe" and "perhaps". Pretty general. You regularly  support your gun arguments with specious nothingness. The only rationale for arming passengers indiscriminately is in your own gun-toting head. He never said passengers should be indiscriminately armed. But that’s a great thought. I can think of four instances when it would have been preferable.  We can have a democratic society or we can have the concentration of great wealth in the hands of the few. We can’t have both. -Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I hope they were less than kind when they "subdued" him…would send an interesting message to potential terrorists if he was shown being taken off the plane bloody and injured. By the time this is all over, we won’t need sky marshals. Terrorists will need to be afraid of the passengers! The answer to this crap, at least for dometic flights, is simply to make Concealed Carry Permits issued by any state valid nation wide and especially in airports and on aircraft. Hoplophobes will scream, but I am yet to hear rational arguments that it wouldn’t work at least as well as sky marshals. Don — Wm. Donald (Don) Tabor Jr., DDS PP-ASEL Chesapeake, VA – CPK, PVG

Only rational argument?? This is a case where the outcome was resolved favorably WITHOUT guns, if you will only pause to read it.  It hardly supports your contention that guns should be alloswd, which might very well have resulted insome innocent person being killed or maimed  in this very case. You regularly  support your gun arguments with specious nothingness. The only rationale for arming passengers indiscriminately is in your own gun-toting head.  We can have a democratic society or we can have the concentration of great wealth in the hands of the few. We can’t have both. -Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis

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(…) He had a bogus 3 week old passport from a country he didn’t live in.  No way you can get a CCP with circumstances like those.

Great Britain has some (odd?) rules about citizenship because of the Commonwealth. #m

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(…) He had a bogus 3 week old passport from a country he didn’t live in.  No way you can get a CCP with circumstances like those. Great Britain has some (odd?) rules about citizenship because of the Commonwealth.

I’m sure they do, but everybody I’ve heard commenting has said it was a fraud.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Do you seriously believe that this arab with a three week old passport and no verifiable identity was going to get a CCP? Ah, I get it.  We arm everybody but the Arabs. A knee jerk liberal, I see.  He had a bogus 3 week old passport from a country he didn’t live in.  No way you can get a CCP with circumstances like those. So the Timothy McVeighs get  whatever they want because they seem to appear as  white anglo-saxons. Yep, we fried him. Did you say "prejudices"???? Nope, he didn’t. Take another look.

You’re still wrong.

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Do you seriously believe that this arab with a three week old passport and no verifiable identity was going to get a CCP? Ah, I get it.  We arm everybody but the Arabs.

A knee jerk liberal, I see.  He had a bogus 3 week old passport from a country he didn’t live in.  No way you can get a CCP with circumstances like those. So the Timothy McVeighs get  whatever they want because they seem to appear as  white anglo-saxons.

Yep, we fried him. Did you say "prejudices"????

Nope, he didn’t.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Do you seriously believe that this arab with a three week old passport and no verifiable identity was going to get a CCP? Ah, I get it.  We arm everybody but the Arabs. A knee jerk liberal, I see.  He had a bogus 3 week old passport from a country he didn’t live in.  No way you can get a CCP with circumstances like those. So the Timothy McVeighs get  whatever they want because they seem to appear as  white anglo-saxons. Yep, we fried him. Did you say "prejudices"???? Nope, he didn’t.

Take another look.  We can have a democratic society or we can have the concentration of great wealth in the hands of the few. We can’t have both. -Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis

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Did you folks see the pic of this guy????

yep. Did you read the info?????

yep. Look at this guy!!!   Him, a three week old passport that says "Richard Reid",  no checked baggage, on a flight to the USA??????  How smart do you have to be to pick up on this???

how do you spell "nationalism"? How in God’s name would anyone let this character on the airplane???

And why hasn’t Bush not yet ordered to bomb France. The guy borded in Paris (aaahhh! Bush doesn’t even know where Paris is [interview during the campaign]). They obviously support terrorism. Are they all freakin’ idiots???  Including the crew????

must be…. The guy has a bomb in his shoes, and everyone else has their heads up their ass!!!

nowadays, the US has to learn what the Europeans learned 60 years ago the hard way. Welcome to the brave new world. … and now back to rec.aviation.piloting #m

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No hoplohobe prejudices here.  I believe in concealed carry by citizens.  I was also a cop, an airport cop, for 20 years.  There is no way I want untrained armed individuals on an airplane I’m riding in.  Yes, UNTRAINED.  When’s the last time the MAJORITY of the CCP holders participated in a tactical type live-fire?  How much shoot/don’t shoot training have they had?  etc, etc Leave the sky marshal job to the trained sky marshal….and let’s have several on EVERY flight. Again, putting aside your hoplohobe prejudices, tell me why it would not work at least as well in preventing a repeat of 9/11 as other alternatives?

– Dale L. Falk Cessna 182A N5912B There is nothing – absolutely nothing – half so much worth doing as simply messing around with airplanes. http://home.gci.net/~sncdfalk/flying.html

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – It cuts both ways.  Had the shoe bomb nut been armed with a gun, would he have been subdued?  If everybody is unarmed, and least the bad guys are outnumbered. Do you seriously believe that this arab with a three week old passport and no verifiable identity was going to get a CCP? Again, this is no reason that the plan I proposed would not work. Think it through and see if you are not forced to put aside your prejudices and agree it is a rational plan. Don — Wm. Donald (Don) Tabor Jr., DDS PP-ASEL Chesapeake, VA – CPK, PVG

Ah, I get it.  We arm everybody but the Arabs. So the Timothy McVeighs get  whatever they want because they seem to appear as  white anglo-saxons. Did you say "prejudices"????  We can have a democratic society or we can have the concentration of great wealth in the hands of the few. We can’t have both. -Supreme Court Justice Louis Brandeis

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It cuts both ways.  Had the shoe bomb nut been armed with a gun, would he have been subdued?  If everybody is unarmed, and least the bad guys are outnumbered.

Do you seriously believe that this arab with a three week old passport and no verifiable identity was going to get a CCP? Again, this is no reason that the plan I proposed would not work. Think it through and see if you are not forced to put aside your prejudices and agree it is a rational plan. Don — Wm. Donald (Don) Tabor Jr., DDS PP-ASEL Chesapeake, VA – CPK, PVG

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I firmly believe in the right of firearm ownership, but to have three or four or maybe seven armed civilians randomly spaced around the aircraft all potentially opening fire toward a central target simultaneously virtually guarantees collateral casualties.  I suspect that any LE or Military professionals would analyze this as unacceptable risk.

As compared to allowing a 9/11 situation to succeed? Don — Wm. Donald (Don) Tabor Jr., DDS PP-ASEL Chesapeake, VA – CPK, PVG

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5 year old

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I am full-time single parent of a 5yo only child who’s been diagnosed with ADHD  and ODD. (Full time meaning only active parent, the other literally disappeared over two years ago) He was diagnosed a couple of months ago after being suspended twice from preschool and on verge of being expelled for mostly refusing to comply (telling teachers he didn’t ‘have’ to do what they said), hyperactivity, bothering other kids, and some aggression. He is being treated by a neurologist, who has him on medication consisting of a 1mg Catapres patch every 5 days to slow him down. He tried Ritalin, but after only 2 doses my son almost completely lost his appetite and didn’t regain it for a whole week so I chose not to use amphetamines with him. Well, he started kindergarten last week. I thought it would be a good chance for him to have a fresh start, where no one knew of his behavior problems. The third day, was a bad day for him (he accidentally dropped his tray in the cafeteria and his teacher had him spend his nap time on the hard tile floor instead of the carpet with the other kids). He finally told me about his problems that night after having pooped in his pants at school in the afternoon, running around in hyperdrive, ignoring any and all requests to do whatever, pooping in his bath then playing with some of it (YUCK!!!), etc. The next morning (yesterday), began well, but when I asked him to get dressed, he laid down on the couch and buried his face in the cushion. When we finally get to his school, he refuses to get out of the car. After 20 minutes of trying to convince him to get out, I have to pull him out of the car. School has already started of course, and most of the traffic has died down. A woman who works for the school noticed the problems I was having and came over to try to convince my son that school is fun, etc, etc. Finally, the Principal came out and he and the other woman ended up dragging my son into the building as I drove away. I was so upset, I couldn’t go to work for a couple of hours. After about an hour and a half I got a call from the woman at school saying that she just left him with his class and he was smiling and seemed to be having a good time. Oh, and I got a note from his teacher (in reply to mine asking her to let him nap on the carpet instead of the tile), saying that he was on the tile with a carpet square under him because he wouldn’t follow directions when being asked to stop bothering the other children. I called his doctor’s office for help, opinion about meds, referral to a therapist, anything. We will definitely start going to a family therapist or psychiatrist very soon. I’m so worried, though, that I’ll be forced to tell the school that he’s being treated. I don’t want him labelled, but then after yesterday it’s obvious there’s something going on with him. I feel lost, exhausted, and out of control. If I can’t keep him school, what am I going to do? Where will he end up? I’ve tried and tried to get him to understand about authority and rules, reminded him that he’s a child and it’s his ‘job’ to respect me and his teachers, blah , blah, blah. It just seems that all he has to do is refuse to comply, and he is the one in control. I know I’m not a perfect parent, but I do try very hard. It seems that I never have the right answer, or the right approach. I need help. Thanks for reading. All offers of advice will be greatly appreciated.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am full-time single parent of a 5yo only child who’s been diagnosed with ADHD  and ODD. (Full time meaning only active parent, the other literally disappeared over two years ago) He was diagnosed a couple of months ago after being suspended twice from preschool and on verge of being expelled for mostly refusing to comply (telling teachers he didn’t ‘have’ to do what they said), hyperactivity, bothering other kids, and some aggression. He is being treated by a neurologist, who has him on medication consisting of a 1mg Catapres patch every 5 days to slow him down. He tried Ritalin, but after only 2 doses my son almost completely lost his appetite and didn’t regain it for a whole week so I chose not to use amphetamines with him. Well, he started kindergarten last week. I thought it would be a good chance for him to have a fresh start, where no one knew of his behavior problems. The third day, was a bad day for him (he accidentally dropped his tray in the cafeteria and his teacher had him spend his nap time on the hard tile floor instead of the carpet with the other kids). He finally told me about his problems that night after having pooped in his pants at school in the afternoon, running around in hyperdrive, ignoring any and all requests to do whatever, pooping in his bath then playing with some of it (YUCK!!!), etc. The next morning (yesterday), began well, but when I asked him to get dressed, he laid down on the couch and buried his face in the cushion. When we finally get to his school, he refuses to get out of the car. After 20 minutes of trying to convince him to get out, I have to pull him out of the car. School has already started of course, and most of the traffic has died down. A woman who works for the school noticed the problems I was having and came over to try to convince my son that school is fun, etc, etc. Finally, the Principal came out and he and the other woman ended up dragging my son into the building as I drove away. I was so upset, I couldn’t go to work for a couple of hours. After about an hour and a half I got a call from the woman at school saying that she just left him with his class and he was smiling and seemed to be having a good time. Oh, and I got a note from his teacher (in reply to mine asking her to let him nap on the carpet instead of the tile), saying that he was on the tile with a carpet square under him because he wouldn’t follow directions when being asked to stop bothering the other children. I called his doctor’s office for help, opinion about meds, referral to a therapist, anything. We will definitely start going to a family therapist or psychiatrist very soon. I’m so worried, though, that I’ll be forced to tell the school that he’s being treated. I don’t want him labelled, but then after yesterday it’s obvious there’s something going on with him. I feel lost, exhausted, and out of control. If I can’t keep him school, what am I going to do? Where will he end up? I’ve tried and tried to get him to understand about authority and rules, reminded him that he’s a child and it’s his ‘job’ to respect me and his teachers, blah , blah, blah. It just seems that all he has to do is refuse to comply, and he is the one in control. I know I’m not a perfect parent, but I do try very hard. It seems that I never have the right answer, or the right approach. I need help. Thanks for reading. All offers of advice will be greatly appreciated.

     My son was also diagnosed with ADHD/ODD.  If I have ever read a story that gave me "flashbacks" of life with him(when he was a little fellow) this is it!  You and your son sound like a clone of myself and my son.  My heart breaks for you because I know what your feeling, the worry of "What will ever become of him" was one of my biggies.  And it was a legitimate concern….some of these children are so impulsive it’s hard to imagine them reaching teen/adulthood without running into some serious consequences.  It is completely overwhelming,  I know.      Is he on anything else besides the Catapres patch?     Obviously this medication doesn’t seem to be working too well…..Or is it?  Is the behavior you described an improvement (though still overwhelming)…Or is this pretty much the "same ole, same ole" type behavior?  If it’s the same you should take him back to his doctor.  Voice your concern…let him know that your son is not responding to the patch.  Maybe he can try another medication.  Meds do work for many people.    We tried probably everything available at the time for my son…including counseling and even hospitalization……nothing phased him, at least not for long.   He finally responded to an alternative approach to treating this disorder.  After being seen at the Carl Pfeiffer Treatment Center in Naperville, Ill. we were told that he was suffering from a severe chemical imbalance.  He was placed on very many different vitamins, minerals and nutrients.  It worked. Improvement was seen.   Pfeiffer’s web page is at http://www.hriptc.org/     That was many years ago. Today he is 20 yrs. old and doing very well. He takes a supplement which is a blend of various amino acids, essential fatty acids, vitamins and minerals.   If he misses this supplement the old behaviors return…..It’s so obvious that *HE* rarely forgets to take them. Thank goodness!     Many of the good folks in here believe that my son may have never really had ADHD/ODD/CD.   Some believe that if you respond so well to nutritional type therapy that the disorder *cannot* be ADHD/ODD, and maybe that’s so. I don’t know.  All I do know is that many, many, doctors, counselors, psychiatrists, etc. etc. diagnosed him as being ADHD,ODD and CD (conduct disorder).  Traditional meds did nothing…counseling did nothing.   When he was started on a regiment neuro-nutrients things improved rapidly.     If you continue to feel as if you and your son are in a "tail spin" you might consider looking into the route we eventually took.   The following website contains information about a very good nutritional supplement which seems to help children with this disorder… http://www.bovon.com/frames.htm    I am NOT a distributor of this product.    Whatever route you choose I wish you the best of luck and God’s Blessings! Cheryl

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You’re learning, Cheryl.  ;-) — Kitten = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = I’m a bitch, I’m a lover; I’m a child, I’m a mother I’m a sinner, I’m a saint; I do not feel ashamed I’m your hell, I’m you dream; I’m nothing in between You know you wouldn’t want it any other way                                                                       – – - Meredith Brooks

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*not snipping this one in case anyone with good advice didn’t get the OP* – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am full-time single parent of a 5yo only child who’s been diagnosed with ADHD  and ODD. (Full time meaning only active parent, the other literally disappeared over two years ago) He was diagnosed a couple of months ago after being suspended twice from preschool and on verge of being expelled for mostly refusing to comply (telling teachers he didn’t ‘have’ to do what they said), hyperactivity, bothering other kids, and some aggression. He is being treated by a neurologist, who has him on medication consisting of a 1mg Catapres patch every 5 days to slow him down. He tried Ritalin, but after only 2 doses my son almost completely lost his appetite and didn’t regain it for a whole week so I chose not to use amphetamines with him. Well, he started kindergarten last week. I thought it would be a good chance for him to have a fresh start, where no one knew of his behavior problems. The third day, was a bad day for him (he accidentally dropped his tray in the cafeteria and his teacher had him spend his nap time on the hard tile floor instead of the carpet with the other kids). He finally told me about his problems that night after having pooped in his pants at school in the afternoon, running around in hyperdrive, ignoring any and all requests to do whatever, pooping in his bath then playing with some of it (YUCK!!!), etc. The next morning (yesterday), began well, but when I asked him to get dressed, he laid down on the couch and buried his face in the cushion. When we finally get to his school, he refuses to get out of the car. After 20 minutes of trying to convince him to get out, I have to pull him out of the car. School has already started of course, and most of the traffic has died down. A woman who works for the school noticed the problems I was having and came over to try to convince my son that school is fun, etc, etc. Finally, the Principal came out and he and the other woman ended up dragging my son into the building as I drove away. I was so upset, I couldn’t go to work for a couple of hours. After about an hour and a half I got a call from the woman at school saying that she just left him with his class and he was smiling and seemed to be having a good time. Oh, and I got a note from his teacher (in reply to mine asking her to let him nap on the carpet instead of the tile), saying that he was on the tile with a carpet square under him because he wouldn’t follow directions when being asked to stop bothering the other children. I called his doctor’s office for help, opinion about meds, referral to a therapist, anything. We will definitely start going to a family therapist or psychiatrist very soon. I’m so worried, though, that I’ll be forced to tell the school that he’s being treated. I don’t want him labelled, but then after yesterday it’s obvious there’s something going on with him. I feel lost, exhausted, and out of control. If I can’t keep him school, what am I going to do? Where will he end up? I’ve tried and tried to get him to understand about authority and rules, reminded him that he’s a child and it’s his ‘job’ to respect me and his teachers, blah , blah, blah. It just seems that all he has to do is refuse to comply, and he is the one in control. I know I’m not a perfect parent, but I do try very hard. It seems that I never have the right answer, or the right approach. I need help. Thanks for reading. All offers of advice will be greatly appreciated.

Lost, You said that you stopped the Ritalin because of your son’s loss of appetite.  Were there any positive effects to his focus and/or ability to self-control while he was taking the Ritalin?  If there *were* some positives while he was taking Ritalin, you may want to ask your doctor about Concerta. Concerta contains the same med used in Ritalin (methylphenidate), but it has a different delivery method.  My son has never had a problem with loss of appetite, although he *has* lost his "nervous eating" habit, a constant "grazing" that he didn’t even realize he was doing.  IIRC, others in the group who have tried Concerta say that it doesn’t have nearly the same effect on appetite that Ritalin has. Other than that, keep working with the medical team you’re developing, have them help you come up with a good plan for teaching your son effective behavior management, anger management, impulse control, and the other things he will need to succeed in school.   Another *extremely* important thing is to pull the school into this. They can already see that your son is having difficulties with the school routine.  Talk to them about putting an IEP into place. Implement as many of the techniques you and your medical team come up with as are feasible for the school to use.  Others here will be able to give much better advice on those lines. HTH — Kitten = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = I’m a bitch, I’m a lover; I’m a child, I’m a mother I’m a sinner, I’m a saint; I do not feel ashamed I’m your hell, I’m you dream; I’m nothing in between You know you wouldn’t want it any other way                                                                       – – - Meredith Brooks

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Lost, You said that you stopped the Ritalin because of your son’s loss of appetite.  Were there any positive effects to his focus and/or ability to self-control while he was taking the Ritalin?  If there *were* some positives while he was taking Ritalin, you may want to ask your doctor about Concerta.

I saw no positive effects with Ritalin. In fact, he was in hyperdrive, non-compliant, and glassy-eyed. He was also taking Tenex at the time (same slowing down effect as Catapres but in a 4-hour pill). I will ask his doctor about Concerta and other alternatives. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Concerta contains the same med used in Ritalin (methylphenidate), but it has a different delivery method.  My son has never had a problem with loss of appetite, although he *has* lost his "nervous eating" habit, a constant "grazing" that he didn’t even realize he was doing.  IIRC, others in the group who have tried Concerta say that it doesn’t have nearly the same effect on appetite that Ritalin has. Other than that, keep working with the medical team you’re developing, have them help you come up with a good plan for teaching your son effective behavior management, anger management, impulse control, and the other things he will need to succeed in school. Another *extremely* important thing is to pull the school into this. They can already see that your son is having difficulties with the school routine.  Talk to them about putting an IEP into place. Implement as many of the techniques you and your medical team come up with as are feasible for the school to use.  Others here will be able to give much better advice on those lines. HTH

Thank you very much for replying, Kitten. I was hoping to avoid having the school involved because of the labelling issue. I know there are teachers who treat ADHD children differently, but not in a positive way. I’m fear the risk of his getting one (or more) of those teachers who see ADHD kids as a lost cause. I really don’t have much choice about it now though. I have a question: What is an "IEP"? Lost :) ps. I love that song!

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I cried when I read your reply, Cheryl. I’ve been crying a lot lately because I feel isolated, frustrated, and misunderstood. It has been very stressful going through this with almost no support. Most people are just the opposite of supportive: disapproving looks, suggestions that my son’s simply learned to "play" me, etc. I’m sure I’m not the only parent here who has been there. It’s no picnic for my son, either. He seems to crave attention so "severely", and the kind of attention/reaction he usually gets is not pleasant. He deserves to be happy and have fun. I have to figure out the right ways to help him. My job will be easier now that I’ve found real support and first-hand information here. Being understood helps to reduce my stress, which will help me deal with him more rationally. ADHD seems to be a fairly vague disorder. Doctors don’t even seem to be able to agree on it’s causes or symptoms. This makes me somewhat skeptical about both doctors and the disorder. I do believe some of my son’s behavior problems are chemical, but I know that he also has emotional issues that need to be dealt with. I know things will get better. I won’t give up. Thank you for sharing your experiences and suggestions. Lost :)

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[snip]    If you continue to feel as if you and your son are in a "tail spin" you might consider looking into the route we eventually took.   The following website contains information about a very good nutritional supplement which seems to help children with this disorder… http://www.bovon.com/frames.htm    I am NOT a distributor of this product.

One disturbing thing about this site (which is hypes "beCALM’d," a nutritional supplement sold through multilevel marketing) is that it relies on the typical scare tactics when discussion medication.  Note that they coyly avoid mentioning any specific medication by name:         Some doctors put estimates of the number of kids with ADD/ADHD at         around 30% (this is not counting the approximately 20 million         adults in the US that have the disorder). Drugs are the most         widely used "solution" to this terrible problem and beCALM’d         offers a safe effective alternative. [30%???   My stars!  That certainly IS a terrible problem!!  Wonder where they got that kind of number...oh, right--the marketing guys.]         …         Drugs cause many side effects including: insomnia, nervousness, skin         rash, anorexia, nausea, dizziness, headaches, blood pressure and pulse         changes, cardiac arrhythmia, abdominal pain and weight loss, slowed or         interrupted growth. [Note how they recite the *possible* side effects as though they were *definite* side effects.  And that they mention the long-debunked myth of growth retardation with stimulants.]         Also, the drug manufacturers clearly state that         "There is neither specific evidence which clearly establishes the         mechanism whereby drug produces its mental and behavioral effects in         children nor conclusive evidence regarding how these effects relate to         the condition of the central nervous system." So they cannot even say         why the drugs do what they do. [Oh.  So I guess all that stuff about stimulating the production of dopamine and norepinephrine in the synaptic cleft (or of inhibiting its reuptake) is just something someone read on a cereal box, then.]         …         Most people are not aware that in 1995, a study was produced in the         Archives of General Psychiatry entitled which concluded that one of         the drugs that is used in the treatment of ADHD was like cocaine. Its         author found that when compared to brain scans of subjects using         cocaine, the distribution of this drug in the human brain was "almost         identical to that of cocaine". The drugs’ effects also peaked at almost         the same time–between 4 and 10 minutes in the case of drug, and 2 to 8         minutes for cocaine and even the highs were similar.  When they asked         the cocaine users they studied how the highs compared they said that         they were "almost indistinguishable". The only significant difference         was that drug took over four times as long–90 minutes–to leave the         body. So the result of all this was the authors of this study feel that         drug has properties very similar to cocaine. One of the very interesting         results they found was that 10 to 30 per cent of cocaine abusers take         cocaine because they have ADHD. When they gave them this drug that was         being studied, the cocaine problem was resolved. [What is not being said is this:  They refer to a 1995 study at Brookhaven National Laboratory and published in the Archives of General Psychiatry.  The lead author, Nora Volkow, also came up with these conclusions:         Volkow stresses...that taking a stimulant orally is very different         from injecting or snorting it [the methylphenidate and the cocaine in         the studies was injected IV]. Intravenous caffeine also resembles         cocaine, she points out [Goll-llee!  Why don't these people complain         about the terrible abuse of caffeine?  it's "just like cocaine," after         all].           Her paper warned that similarities between cocaine and Ritalin "should         not be used as an argument against the use of methylphenidate."         And she admits that there is no evidence of a link between Ritalin use         and cocaine abuse. But she adds: "We do have evidence that if we don’t         treat them, then they will turn to self-medication."  She says that 10         percent to 30 percent of cocaine abusers take cocaine because they have         ADHD.         "When we give them Ritalin, the cocaine problem is resolved," she says. (Source: http://add.about.com/library/weekly/aa042898.htm)         In another study by a psychopharmacologist at Texas A&M University and a         developmental psychologist at the University of California, they         followed the progress of 5000 children with ADHD (who were taking a         certain drug for their ADHD) in the San Francisco area. They         followed them from adolescence into adulthood to discover whether the         drug they were taking for their ADHD had any effect on tobacco, alcohol         and illicit drug use in later life. In a paper that was be published in         the Journal of Learning Disabilities, Lambert claims that the         children who took this particular drug are more likely to smoke as         adults and are three times more likely to develop a taste for cocaine. [Isn't it interesting how a large body of other data directly contradict this statement?  I haven't searched for this study, but given the egregiously dishonest example in the first section of the site, I have a pretty good idea of what I'd find.]         …         3) Our scientific studies have proven that over 60% of kids with         ADD/ADHD can stop taking drug (or any other medication) COMPLETELY         by taking beCALM

Depression and Alchoholism, A Lethal Mix (Especially for their kids)

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Depression and Alcoholism , A Lethal Mix Depression and alcohol dependence are two common disorders that frequently coexist. As a result, sorting out the various symptoms of each disorder and determining whether the symptoms of one are caused by the other often prove difficult. In turn, this uncertainty hampers decision making concerning treatment. In his review of current knowledge relating to this important issue, Dr Sawyer pointed out that progress is being made in understanding how these two disorders interact and that the data now available provide at least some basis for guiding treatment when alcoholism is the presenting disorder. Current research generally supports the notion that when a patient with mild to moderate depressive symptoms and no history of depression begins treatment of alcohol dependence, adoption of a posture of watchful waiting is a better approach than immediate antidepressant therapy. In many heavy drinkers, depressive symptoms relent within 1 to 3 weeks after abstinence has been established. This wait-and-see approach has the advantages of minimizing unneeded treatment of depression and giving the patient a clearer message that drinking is the major problem to be dealt with. It would be a mistake, however, to adopt this approach too rigidly, since many questions about its application remain unanswered. One of the most influential advocates of the wait-and-see approach is Dr Marc A. Schuckit, who has done some excellent work in this area. His studies, though, have focused only on male veterans who, after careful screening to exclude anyone with a significant mental health history, are admitted to an inpatient alcohol rehabilitation unit for 4 weeks. In these "primary alcoholics," depression has almost always cleared within 2 weeks, but this finding cannot be generalized to women or patients with a history of mental health problems. Work by other investigators suggests that up to one half of all women who enter a treatment program for substance abuse may have major depression. Further, relatively little is known about how depressive symptoms in outpatients and persons with multiple dependencies or a history of mental disorders react to treatment. The fact remains that each patient’s symptoms must be evaluated and treated on an individual basis. Antidepressant therapy needs to be started sooner than 3 weeks after detoxification in alcoholics with severe symptoms of depression, suicidal ideation, or a history of depression. Compared with tricyclic antidepressants, the newer antidepressants are much safer in terms of overdose and generally do not interact with alcohol, so prescribing them carries less risk. As Dr Sawyer noted, underrecognition and undertreatment of both depression and alcoholism are significant problems. Because of the strong inclination on the part of many physicians not to prescribe any psychotropic agent for substance-dependent patients, the risk of undertreatment of depression in alcoholics may be as real as that of overtreatment. Untreated depression is likely to undermine efforts to achieve and maintain abstinence from alcohol, resulting in overall poor outcome. Much less is known about identifying and treating heavy drinkers when depression is the presenting problem. The National Institute of Mental Health Collaborative Depression Study clearly showed that depression does not respond to treatment in patients who are heavy drinkers.1 Therefore, aggressive treatment of alcoholism is as essential to improvement of mood in depressed patients as treatment of depression is to achievement of abstinence in alcoholics. Much more work needs to be done in this area. When heavy drinking and depression coexist, the risk of suicide is very high, especially in unmarried or separated older white men. Treatment of either disorder alone, without therapy for the other, is ineffective. Thus, psychiatrists and other mental health professionals, chemical dependency professionals, and primary care providers must be alert to this deadly mix and respond aggressively whenever it is identified. Both disorders must be treated wherever they are encountered, whether in alcoholism treatment programs, mental health programs, or primary care clinics. Mark L. Willenbring, MD Director, addictive disorders section Minneapolis Veterans Affairs Medical Center Associate professor of psychiatry University of Minnesota Medical School Minneapolis

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I applogize to all here for the exchange between myself and bobwhelan.  I have NO intentions of stirring up anything.  I am depressed and I am on 30mgs of Remeron and I want hear from others in a similar state.  I will try to learn about people like Legionaire by lurking instead of asking.  I don’t know what I did that seems to have pissed off so many people.  I didn’t know one should so carefully watch what they ask here. Rob D.

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How’s it hangin’, Linda? Thought you were leaving … guess you just couldn’t stay away from an opportunity to abuse. —

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